Frienship

Since today is Valentine’s day I wanted to talk about friendship. In Mexico, friendship is celebrated on Valentine’s and it is an important primary food. Let me talk more about this concept I was introduced to me at IIN. Primary food is all outside your plate that nourishes your body, such as relationships (aka friendship), career, spirituality or other. From a holistic point of view, it might be as important as the veggies or protein on your plate!

These past years have been out of the ordinary for me and I wouldn’t made it without my friends. Living far from home, my friends have become my family, so when I needed them they were there for me. I am a reserved person, but those who know me close, knew my struggles and were there for me. They were there for me without judgment on tough times and now they share with me the joy of having Mariana in my life.

It is easy to stay friends with those with who you share the same hobbies, jobs, with kids the same age, live close by or other that keeps you orbiting close together, and although those are factors that might bring people together they should not be what defines a friendship.

As adults life gets busy, and we get pulled into all directions and to have too little time for real friend to friend quality time. I have to say, I do go out with friends and attend social events, but how to you balance social life and real friend quality time? How do you manage to stay really closely connected to friends? And how to let in and give time for new ones? I love being old school and go for a coffee (juice or tea in my case) one on one, or at least a long phone call, but life seems to busy sometimes and I hate texting (or mostly my carpal tunnel). I know people who say that their lives are too busy and complicated for friendships, but it is all a point of view and a priority issue. For me it is important, but I know I can do better! So if this is something that matters to you, cultivate it with real doable expectations; some distance and growing apart might be normal, as long as you still got each other. It is true that you don’t need to see a true friend very often to still be friends, however check on them from time to time!

Find friends who lift you up, who share your values, who might think different than you but respect your point of view, who you can lean on, who take you for who you are. I definitely wouldn't had made it these past years without my friends. Friendship is a very important primary food in my plate, and I am grateful for it!

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